What if you spent every day looking for One Beautiful Thing?

Disobedient Women


©Elle Magazine

©Elle Magazine

“A cultural fixation on female thinness is not an obsession about female beauty but an obsession about female obedience.” ― Naomi Wolf

As much as I love fashion, at my current weight, I didn’t think I would ever find anything non-matronly to wear (that doesn’t cost a fortune). However, it would seem that the dark days of old-lady clothes are over!

There’s a great trend happening that I want to acknowledge as today’s beautiful thing.  Plus-size women (which, if you believe what you see in magazines, includes nearly all of us) are finally starting to be included and recognized AND DESIGNED FOR by the fashion industry. There are a number of pioneers who deserve our thanks for this movement.



For example, actress Melissa McCarthy, started her own fashion line because no one would make her an Oscar dress.  Can you imagine anyone turning her down? Unbelievable. I hate that she had to go through that, but I’m thrilled that she turned it into something so positive (and I’m relieved to report that her designs are beautiful).

“In 1990, there were only 200 vendors in the plus-size market; now there are 2,000.” –


Melissa’s bold step into plus-sized fashion led me to search for other positive signs of change. I discovered that in 2013, London held its first Plus Size Fashion Weekend.  Evolve Magazine and TIASW (Trapped in a Skinny World) joined forces to create the event, focusing on fashion for sizes 14 (that’s US size 12) and up.

“The average clothing size of a UK woman is size 16. Attendees were excited that finally there was an event catering to women who love fashion but aren’t necessarily the accepted fashion ideal of being tall and waif-like.”   ― Laura Puddy, Cosmopolitan UK columnist (Yes, THAT Cosmo!)

Plus Size Fashion Weekend has now become an annual event and is getting positive press from even the most traditional fashion mags!


Then there are the bloggers:

Alissa is the creator of Stylish Curves, a fashion and lifestyles blog that seeks to “bridge the gap between straight and plus sizes.” Alissa does a remarkable job of achieving her goals.   I love her style sense.  Her blog features all the best new and established designers, and I discovered quite a few brands and stores I hadn’t come across before.

Suzie is a plus-size fashion blogger from Hungary, who has posted the 10 essential points that every woman should know/follow for a positive body image on her site,  Each of the 10 points has its own article, but if you want to see them all in one place, blogger Anami has condensed them in her post here.

“Love All, Including You!” ― Heath Byers (copied from QuoteBard)

©Callie Thorpe

©Callie Thorpe

From the Corners of the Curve is a London-based blog by Callie, who started her blog as a diet journal.  She writes “I swiftly realized that I no longer wanted to make the focus of my life around losing weight. I decided to try and make positive changes to my life, to learn some body confidence and share with other women the enjoyment of fashion and beauty at any size.” Amen, sister!

And of course, no mention of plus-size fashion blogs would be complete without The Curvy Fashionista, “keeping it curvy since 2008.”  They bill themselves as a fashion lifestyle blog catering to the curvy, confident, chic plus size community.  I regularly go there for their listings of sales and sample sales. You read that right. Sample sales in plus sizes.  Creator Marie Denee also has a great YouTube channel, so go check her out.

There are many more plus-size fashion blogs out there. Some of the more notable ones are listed on Style Caster.

Unapologetic women are undoubtedly the sexiest women.  We need to take a lesson from these curvy trailblazers and stop being so hard on ourselves. It’s time to enjoy the body we’ve got!

“You can be attracted to anyone you would like. I recommend you start with yourself.” ― Michelle Merritt

And for those of who for whom plus-sized fashion is not of great interest, here’s a fashion post just for you. Bunnies!



Author: Donna from MyOBT

I have committed to spending part of every day looking for at least one beautiful thing, and sharing what I find with you lovelies!

13 thoughts on “Disobedient Women

  1. Thank you for this! I needed it today.


  2. So needed for all women. We all struggle with body image. Thank you!


  3. Oh boy. What a great post. Perfection is in the eye of the beholder, not in the size of the dress.


  4. Dear darling, thank you so much for this article and spreading the positive body image concept! You are a star! Big hugs from London,
    Anami, xx


  5. I am going to have a snack.


  6. Reblogged this on de Frémancourt and commented:
    “A cultural fixation on female thinness is not an obsession about female beauty but an obsession about female obedience.” – here’s a fine sentence full of meaning.
    The emphasis on female thinness and all the criteria related to the so-called ‘ideal’ female beauty are marred by a very sexist and discriminatory dimension. It is closely linked to prejudiced perceptions of womanhood, sexist attitudes towards gender and related vices of a cisgender-centric society. This article is an insightful contribution to these issues.


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