
I am a bit shaken. Over the weekend, someone we knew from Fire Island was struck and killed coming home from her DJing job, leaving her wife, family, and friends in total shock. We weren’t close, but she was an iconic presence in our little beach town, and I know many people who were very tight with her. It’s a terrible loss for our community, but what’s really knocked me off my axis is the reminder that one of us could just not come home some day. No warning, no goodbye, no preparation. We make our plans and our calendars fill up. We get busy and put off things like making visits and returning calls, thinking “I’ll get to it tomorrow.” Then there is no tomorrow. It seems wildly unfair and completely unfathomable.
Beloved and I were both similarly affected by Stacy’s passing, as I suspect were many other couples as well. We have found ourselves holding on just a little bit tighter, being just a little bit more patient, being a little more present. I can’t stop thinking about Stacey’s poor wife, and I don’t know about Beloved, but my dreams have been just awful. When I heard the song below yesterday, No One Gets Out Alive by Maggie Rose, I knew I had to share. It seems just right.
Buy the house visit Rome
Wear the dress
That stops the show
Don’t you know
No one gets out aliveSo stay a while here on the swing
Let’s pretend we’ll always be together
‘Cause there’s no way that we could know
When we’ll go where all things go forever
I’m gonna hope for betterWatch the sky
From a hill
Do what you can
To make time stand still
‘Cause you know
No one gets out aliveSo bring the wine and celebrate
Let’s pretend that we’ll always be together
There’s no way that we could know
When we’ll go where all things go forever
I’m gonna hope for betterHold your friends
– No One Gets Out Alive by Maggie Rose
Forgive the night
Die to love
And live your life
Don’t you know
No one gets out alive
This one’s for you, Stacey. If there’s a heaven, I’m sure you’ve got everyone on their feet dancing, just like you did in Cherry Grove.
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March 5, 2024 at 7:29 am
I am so sorry for your loss. Life really is both precious and fragile.
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March 5, 2024 at 11:30 am
Thank you, love. I can hardly claim it as my loss, but I can’t shake this terrible feeling of doom around every corner.
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March 5, 2024 at 7:37 am
So awful……my condolences….lyrics are so very poignant….
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March 5, 2024 at 11:31 am
Thank you. It’s a beautiful song.
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March 5, 2024 at 7:38 am
Hi dear Donna,
I am so sorry to hear of your loss and of the passing of your friend. Sending love and condolences to you and your whole community.
Peace and Gratitude for all you do and share with us, Tanya
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March 5, 2024 at 11:32 am
Thank you, Tanya. I wish I had gotten to know her better.
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March 5, 2024 at 8:14 am
Donna, you have such a big heart and touch so many people with the joy you share in everyday life. Thank you for sharing this grief, and for reminding us to be present…especially with those we love.
Peggy
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March 5, 2024 at 11:32 am
How kind! Thank you, Peg.
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March 5, 2024 at 8:17 am
How sad. It sounds like Stacy loved making people happy. Perhaps she would have wanted you to dance, have a glass of wine in her memory and be happy with what you have.
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March 5, 2024 at 11:32 am
She was a FORCE. And a force for good. I guess that’s the best any of us can hope for.
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March 5, 2024 at 8:27 am
Oh sweetie I’m so sorry to hear about Stacy and her sudden passing 😢 holding you close in my heart always love you TOO
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March 5, 2024 at 11:33 am
Thanks, doll. I feel just terrible for her people.
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March 5, 2024 at 8:47 am
How terribly sad, sending a big hug and tonight I will raise a glass and dance around with the dog like everyone’s watching and I don’t care saying fly free here’s to you Stacy
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March 5, 2024 at 11:34 am
Love that. Hugs to Ozzy
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March 5, 2024 at 9:46 am
this is such a tragedy. I’m very sorry, sending my condolences to her family and the entire community.
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March 5, 2024 at 11:34 am
She’s leaving a big, big empty space. I hope her wife can get some comfort from how beloved she was.
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March 5, 2024 at 10:07 am
Donna–I am so very sorry.
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March 5, 2024 at 11:35 am
Thanks. It’s just terrible.
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March 5, 2024 at 10:18 am
I went and found an article about the crash, didn’t realize it was with a truck, what’s called an under-ride crash, where a person or vehicle slides under a truck. NYC requires trucks that have contracts with the city to have underride guards, but odds are the oil truck was not under contract to the city.
We at the Truck Safety Coalition (which I’ve written about on occasion) have been working for literally years to get side underride guards mandated on all commercial trucks. It’s a very uphill battle. But at least some in Congress have heard of them now. The DOT has now heard of them. Some cities are starting to require them on trucks coming into their cities. There’s a movement, mostly led by families of victims.
Someone from the Truck Safety Coalition will likely reach out to her family. In time they may want to join our fight. Also we may provide some comfort in the knowledge they are not alone.
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March 5, 2024 at 11:36 am
Wow. That’s impressive. I didn’t realize you worked in that space. Sounds like that would have saved her life. Such a shame. Keep up the good work!
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March 5, 2024 at 10:43 am
Such a terrible tragedy, so awful, so sorry to hear. My heart goes out to her family and the entire community. Big hug to you.
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March 5, 2024 at 11:36 am
Thanks, hon.
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March 5, 2024 at 12:18 pm
This is so sad. And the suddenness and shock of this loss is what makes one realize how precious and fragile each of our lives are. Sending you lots of love.
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March 5, 2024 at 1:00 pm
Thanks, Elise!
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March 5, 2024 at 11:23 pm
Yeah, we’ve been dealing with this the past year, and your sentiments and the song are exactly what Don and I have had to face. He had a stroke last May; thankfully has now pretty much fully recovered, but it really underlined how fragile we all are, so we too hold each other a little tighter. We know, in a way that we hadn’t previously faced, that the end will come. Hugs to you and Beloved.
Alison
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March 6, 2024 at 11:34 am
Hugs right back to you and Don! I didn’t know. That must have been terrifying. I have good friends who dealt with the same thing last year. He seems to be regaining most of what he lost, but it’s been a long road. Sending love.
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March 6, 2024 at 1:16 am
Great song, Donna, and a message we should all take to heart. I’m sorry about your friend. 😦
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March 6, 2024 at 11:34 am
Thank you.
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